Most of you that read my blog have younger children. A few of you have grown children and I will probably know your answer to this poll. Please answer any way.
Ask your friends and/or share how your parents handled this with you.
Should an 18 year old girl have a curfew?
Should an 18 year old girl have to pay rent to live at home?
If the 18 year old pays rent should she still have to be in by curfew?
This poll is really futile because a decision has already been made. One that my husband and I made together and agree on. I'm just curious as to how others have handled this point in their life.
Our decision? Well, my decision that he agreed to.
The family has family rules that we all live by. One is coming home at night, the other is you clean up behind yourself.
Curfew is MN, Sunday thru Thursday. Friday and Saturday it is 0100. Abide by the curfew live here for free.
Pay $100 a month and the curfew will be lifted.
This seemed to be a reasonable compromise. She is now looking for a place to rent. Please pray that I keep a cool head, stick to the plan and that there will be no place available for her to rent!
She must also give me $100 a month in order to continue to have car privileges. This one she gets and has no problem with agreeing to. Right now she can have the car on the days that she goes to work only. Once she earns her first pay check and can give me the $100, then she can drive the car when ever she wants.
Oh, silly me, the good news:
SHE HAS A JOB!!!!!
She will be working at Sizzlers, starting Friday.
I always try to start my post in a generic manner, esp if it is of a personal nature. I never can keep it that way though.
So, share with me please what your thoughts on this are. Sometimes it is so very hard for me to stand firm on certain issues. She almost had me swayed into lifting curfew and staying here for free. Can't do it.
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Really? You want other people's opinions on this? Why?
What do you think is a biblical standard for the treatment of young adult daughters? The Lord is the only one Who will require an accounting about this. What we care or say won't garner you any credibility in His court.
I'm praying for you this morning, 'cause I know this must be so hard all the way around.
Stand firm on the decisions that you have already made!
I will be praying for you. I have no experience in this to give you advice *as a parent*. Remembering my experience as an 18 y/o college student which was ohhh 15 years ago...I can share a bit. My problem was not a curfew problem, it was a heart problem...the hours of 10pm-1am just gave oppurtunity to act out what was already purposed in my heart. Is there anything good that happens after 10pm? I will be praying for you both. Also, any time you live with your parents,(or anyone really) rent or not, it is just plain considerate *at the very least*, to be in at a decent hour so that your mother's heart (or your roommate) can "rest". This is what we will teach our daughters...that, Biblically speaking, until our daughters are married, they are under their father's authority (and ultimately God's) they should seek his permission in all they do and honor it regardless- for their own protection in all areas. Yes, she is legally an adult at 18, but in God's eyes she is still to remain under her father's authority and protection until given in marriage. Again, this is not advice...I am not even near there, but I do pray for wisdom for the years ahead because answering to God is all that matters. Love you!!Heather
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