Change

When to change, what to change and how. These are always the questions to ask when change is considered.

I have my son in a Private school and I have always felt it was the absolute best choice for him. Now I'm beginning to question that choice. Not so much in that the choice has been wrong, but in that maybe the right change would be a positive thing for him. He has watched his sister go through MANY changes, not all of them to her benefit and he doesn't want to go through the same thing. Nor do we want the same things to happen to him. However, the school he is in is no longer meeting his needs. In fact it's as if he is just spinning his wheels with no forward progress. I have offered to home school him because he does much better in getting things done when he is at home. Yesterday he came to me and ask if I would homeschool him, it is unusual for him to bring it up. The answer is yes! However, I will keep him in the same curriculum. In switching Gab around and trying to find what would work for her we really messed up her schooling. Seems that with each change we put her further behind academically. We also taught her that when the going gets tough, change. She would be a much better person today if we had taught her how to find God in the situation and stick it out!
With Kevin, we have taken the road of sticking it out, with all the reasons of why this is best.
Folks he is quite literally at the end of his rope. This is what I told him this morning:
We can change the circumstances and that may help. However, if it's the attitude that needs to change then it doesn't matter how we change the circumstances there will still be a problem. I believe with all my heart that he has tried to stick this out. I want to change his schooling circumstances. I believe that it will be more than tough for him, but I also believe that he needs the change.
Will you please pray with me that God will show me how to go about this. Right now he is 16 and can't quit. Right now he says that he does really want to learn but not in his present environment with the current curriculum. He actually had a very valid point in regards to the curriculum. My fear is that as soon as he can he will quit if there isn't a change.
Can you imagine going to a place every day and feeling like a failure every day. That no matter how much you put into getting ahead, at the end of the day that's still where you are at?!

Please understand, I am not bagging the school!! It is a great school. It just isn't meeting the needs of my son any more. If he could stay on task then he would graduate in two years. That is a year behind when he should graduate and he is not staying on task.

I just want to scream in frustration!!! I go through the whole gambit of he needs a routine and a schedule. Yes, true. He has one. I just do not believe that a child should be struggling this hard to keep up with school work. There needs to be an out let. Other activities to be engaged in. That's a whole nother sob blog.

There is by all means a heart attitude issue here. But what came first? The attitude creating the school issue. Or sheer frustration and constant feelings of failure no matter what he puts into it that created the attitude?! I believe it's the latter. I don't want to ride my white horse to the rescue; yet I am his mother and I believe put here to be his advocate. Thanks for letting me vent. I'm open to suggestions. Otherwise just please pray that God would lead me to the right people and options to consider. Thanks!