God is Good!

1. Thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement and prayers!! Since my request for a friend the following things have happened:

A good friend that I have had for a long time reached out and got bit. This opened the door for healing and comforting and the start of a deeper more open friendship. I'm thankful for her patience and grace.

Many of you responded via blog and e-mail with support and encouragement. My sister pointed out that there are actually many different seasons of friendships. I keep telling her she needs to join us in the Blogosphere.

Many years ago I met a woman who was a very good friend to me. In fact she was very much like the very friend I had described in my blog. I was not thinking of her at all when I wrote that blog, though she has been on my mind for several weeks now. I kept meaning to try to find here via internet info. We were transferred from the area so the friendship became a long distance friendship. She even came out to California to visit one summer years ago. Anyhow, she left a message for me on my cell phone today. I haven't called her back just yet because of the time frame and because we will talk until the battery is dead!!

I think my request for a friend actually should have been more of a prayer for God to open my eyes to the friends that I have!! No matter He knew and you prayed and I'm rejoicing.

Thank you

2. Michael and I went on a date Friday night. We had a really nice time. He is such a great man. He took me to eat and then we went to see The Pursuit of Happiness. I always hesitate to admit I go to the Theater much less recommend one for others to go see, but this was really a great show!!
Then on the way home we had an argument. An argument that we have had on many occasion. Rather than go home we found a place to park (on base) so we could talk things out. So between cop checks we resolved this argument. This time it had a different ending! After reassuring the kind (very young) officer that we were indeed ok; this statement was made:
I will take responsibility for this. Shoot, I was going to try to make this generic but that will get confusing and take twice as many words. Lets face it I'm mighty wordy to begin with! So here's the skinny. I frequently respond to my husband in a certain way verbally that infuriates him. I know this and feel that I constantly guard my words as to not offend. However, when I become relaxed and comfortable the words just roll and the brain thinks out loud. You got it, wham the damage is done. I'm crying and apologizing all over the place and then fall silent. My wonderful knight in shining armor says, I will take responsibility for my part in this. Whats that angels singing?! I told him that was the first time I had ever heard him say that and it was music to my ears. Then I pointed out to him that he is male and I am female and that we think and approach things differently. When he shares with me an idea or a dream, I immediately jump into the mind frame of how can we make this happen? What obstacles are in the way and how can we move them. Not to mention that I think out loud. So the first words out of my mouth are identifying the obstacles. What he hears is the "negative" What he wants to hear is what a great idea!! I do say that it just isn't the FIRST thing I say, by the time I get to that he has shut down. So, I will continue to try to let the cheerleader come out first and/or ask questions and learn to listen to the whole thought before I jump in. He in turn will understand that I am not trying to find fault or be negative. In actuality I am working to identify and remove the obstacles. And when I mess up rather than taking offense and shutting down he will remind me that he isn't stupid and of course he wouldn't let Kevin sit in a room from 9-5 with nothing to do while he was at work.

I guess all I had to say was we had an argument that ended in a much more productive happy way.

I am not dealing well with the thought of him not being here in 5 months. He really is a wonderful and amazing person.